Need some advice with depression

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  1. x_RedAura_x

    x_RedAura_x Well-Known Member

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    hey guys! (PLEASE BE PATIENT WHEN READING THX)
    Some of yall have already known about me being all depressed and stuff.
    Good knews is the symptoms feel less worse (but still bad). I used to have totally loss interest in my favourite hobbies and life etc. but now at least i still find fun and meaning in things. However, my ocd and my overthinking nature is worsening. I've already paid a visit to my GP doctor and he diagnosed me with dysthymia, chronic depression. He isn't an expert in mental health so...
    I finally figured out the root cause of my depression: Pure-O ocd, at least that's what i diagnose myself with. Im pretty sure its ocd, here's why:
    The day before depression hit me, OCD hit me hard for no reason. The next morning, i woke up feeling a significant drop in mood. Then, i went into a period of darkness...
    I thought i was free my depression, two weeks ago, after feeling normal and happy like i was ever before. However, OCD hit me hard recently again, and, you know...i enter another period of depression.

    This is important too. Before depression, I was the happy kid in class that makes everyone laugh and is very sociable in class. I was able to talk to everyone but now i am only capable of ending conversations. After and during this period of darkness, i start to withdraw from social interactions. Example, I used to join in to play card games in class, now, i dont bother to. What's worse, my peers are starting to lose interest in me...i instantly became the opposite of what i was. It wasn't me...
    Now I feel no friends are willing to talk to me, to interact with me, to play with me. They used to urged me to have recess with them but now they just ignore me, like i never existed :( couldnt blame them...this social withdrawal was the reason why...

    Now im having issues with Pure O Ocd, dysthymia and starting to withdraw from social interactions. I jusy cant wait to be myself again, however i have trouble picturing the happy me...i want to be able to talk to people like aways and be the happy boy...my doctor gave some advice to visit a specialist, but he thinks that i should monitor things first before i make decisions. He is planning to prescript some medicines (SSRIs i believe) but he feels it unnecessary, yet.

    Do you guys think it's time to tell my parents to visit a specialist? Fortunately, I have very approachable parents who understand me well and already knew about my condition (except the ocd and social withdrawal thing). Should I?
     
  2. Lachie95

    Lachie95 Forum Lurker

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    You should talk to your parents, seeing a specialist can help a lot. I'm a sufferer of depression & anxiety, but I find that I'm less anxious about new situations since I started seeing a psychologist, and I don't really hate myself as much either. I've still got a fair bit that I need to do to improve my mental health, but I'd certainly reccomend you try seeing a psychologist about your mental health.
     
  3. Setting_Suns

    Setting_Suns Well-Known Member

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    Talk to your parents about it man, that's what they're there for. If you trust your parents, then now would be the time to communicate your feelings to them. Be 100% honest. Let them know what you're going through. They would probably be able to help you out far better than any of us here can. Tell them about the OCD and social withdrawals you're experiencing, and don't leave anything out - Because they won't ever be able to help you out of a situation that they don't even know about.

    If you want my advice? It's best to try and overcome depression without the use of antidepressants if you can. Those things quite literally mess with the chemical compositions in your brain; that's how they function. And honestly, that can lead to some rather terrifying results. But do what you feel is right and best for you. First things first though, let your family know about it. Don't try to make that kind of decision alone.

    I remember my cousin (He was only 21 ...) who suffered from depression a few years back, but never let any of us even know about it. Me and him lived a pretty good distance apart, and so I only saw him once every now and again. But any time I'd visit, or any time I'd call, he never told me anything about it. Ever. I guess he was just trying to keep it all bottled up inside ... Anyways the only way I found out about it was a few months later when he left us all a note before he committed suicide. :sorry:

    And while I'm not saying that you would ever take it that far, what I am saying is that you shouldn't ever let yourself get to that point. I've seen what depression can lead to. So just talk to someone about it. Talk to your parents, talk to a friend, but just talk to someone. I really don't want to hear about you doing the same thing that my cousin did. Don't end up finding a permanent solution to the temporary problems you face in life.

    Because trust me, life gets a whole lot better.
     
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  4. vahnzizka

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    I went through a 3-4 year-ish period of near major depression and social withdrawal. In order to fill the void that was left behind since I used to be a social chatterbox I just strengthened my friendships with a smaller number of people that I connected with more.
    In my own experience I never talked to or told anyone about my problems. I just preferred to internalize it and deal with my own issues. NOT to say that's a good thing but don't force yourself to do anything your uncomfortable with as long as your building the confidence to break social boundaries. I never really went back to the happy chatterbox that I used to be. I think the most important thing you can do is just strive to be comfortable with who you are. And if you don't like your self image just change it. One of the beautiful things about the human mind is one attitude adjustment can change your whole world, or at least your perception of it :)
    If all else fails you I suggest just finding something else to be passionate in. Be it friends, family, arts, sports, games, life is a lot easier to enjoy if you can find something you plan on having fun with everyday

    Just some advice based on personal experience. Good luck and don't ever quit on yourself. No matter how low you sink your always worth fighting for.

    Also I'll just drop this website here
    www.lonerwolf.com
    Great philosophical sight that helps a lot of people deal with personal problems. Sometimes they get a lil wacky but worth the look at if you feel up to it:D
     
  5. x_RedAura_x

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    Glad to know someone has been thru hell too. But isn't visiting a therapist the better wat to cure depression?
     
  6. WhiteC

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    Nothing cures depression - it's the way your mind works. You just need positives in your life, things to do, people to talk to which will make you realise life is worth living and that it's worth being happy.
    Be glad you don't drink or take drugs or things would be alot worse.
     
  7. x_RedAura_x

    x_RedAura_x Well-Known Member

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    Well, weird thing is i find life worth living. I have things i do look forward everyday. However my mood is just at a terrible state for no reason except fearing that one day i couldnt take it anymore. The fear of suiciding is what fuels my depression im sure.
     
  8. vahnzizka

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    Hum. Trying to understand your position. Is it just that your afraid of suicidal thoughts or the fear of dying itself? I mean my thoughts on mortality have always been I'm going to die at some point anyways so I might as well try to do something with this limited life/existence I have now. So when I was going through the depression I admittedly debated suicide at some darker moments in my life but I never took any steps towards it. Thankfully :phantom:
    If you find life worth living I don't see how you can be afraid of suiciding. Cause if you truly value your life I don't see how you could bring yourself to take it. Hope I've helped somewhat o_O
     
  9. woodlord4707

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    You should talk to your parents about the specialist thing. Psychologically speaking, though depression is caused by the person himself via the mind, you need some 'external' help. You can't seem to fight this condition by yourself. People are there to help you. You need to get help before the phase gets to you, consumes you until it reaches the point where you decide to end your life- which is the highest peak of your destruction.

    Religiously speaking, if you hold on to God, something great will happen. Hardships are just challenges you have to go through. If you get past them, you'll find a light only God can give.
     
  10. zebracow101

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    Though I have never suffered depression, I have gone through thoughts of low self esteem and loneliness. I found that school really helps for me, it helps me get my mind of things and focus on my education. I just binge eat and watch korean drama, though I don't recommend it since it's not healthy =_=

    Hugging is a great way of releasing negative toxins from your body. :)

    In general, being with others you feel comfortable with is the best, whether it's your parents or peers (do you happen to have any out of school?) Using technology makes you kinda degrade your importance sometimes... :x Anyways sending hugs to u bb :dummy1: Life will get a lot better so keep on enduring it.
     
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